Compassion First

May we all learn compassion before the situations that come to teach it to us.

I write to you again, twice in one week, who am I? But when inspiration strikes, I flow with. Writing hasnt been a muse a date everyday but this week, I guess, we are in a situationship.

The above phrase came to me while meditating this morning. The house quiet except for the Celtic guitar album on my spotify, the sun finally reaching my chair and warming my house. I close my eyes, expecting to sit a while, the light behind my eyes growing in brightness as the morning light settles in to day. Within a few moments the message is delivered.

I closed my eyes again and a deeper understanding unfolds in me. I expect to sit a while but alas the message compels me to my computer and my fingers are here, typing this for you.

It’s been a personal lesson of mine to witness my own judgement unfold in to personal experience of that which I judged.

In all my work I have observed a similar pattern in many others. When we judge something long enough, eventually compassion will come in the form of finding ourselves in the position of that person and discovering it might be easier to behave that way than we previously thought. We may in fact do exactly what the formerly judged did or at least feel the suffering that could create such a thing.

Now I find there are of course exceptions to the rule. There are truly somethings most people feel awful about, heinous crimes and dark places most of us will never touch but I find we are often in to much shock and stress to judge those in the same way. They are just tragic, we dont seek to understand the person involved necessarily (although maybe the true crime fans would say differently) but its not the same passionate ask of “why would they do such a thing!?” We are not giving as much energy to those individuals as we do the players of our daily lives, triggering and frustrating us.

When we judge we are asking “why are they this way, why aren’t they different?” Why cant they do what I would do in that situation?

Ask and you shall receive.

But if you don’t allow it in as clarity in the moment because you hold on to your hurt and victimhood, you may just get the chance to prove what you would do in their situation or at least one similar. When we feel like someone should do what we would do, we are coming from our current awareness and projecting it in to a situation that is not in that awareness and if you were in that awareness, you may feel more similar to them than to what you once held as true.

I am witnessing someone I love go through an experience just like this. The things they once judged in others they are now in a situation to embody and it’s painful, all the more because they don’t know it. They can’t see that they still live in that judgement and therefor can’t receive the help or the steps to free themselves from the pain. You may be thinking, why don’t you tell them? Well like a vampire, advice is only allowed in when it’s truly invited. (Different outcomes of course, well hopefully)

So I make a plea with you, please have compassion first, for your sake if not their own.

This is not about enabling behaviors that are unhealthy in your life, but about allowing for people to be where there at and removing your energy and need to change them. You can of course change the position at which you interact with them in, with compassion for you and them.

In another note, as I write this, I am intrigued by the fact that in my own journey I think much about manifesting and creating but in my writings, I often speak about virtue. Virtue a word used so rarely in modern times that when I was in an abundance course and the content went to virtue as a form of abundance I was surprised by its’ mention and by the desire it brought up in me. I was drawn to this idea of abundance of virtue.

Being raised in a christian upbringing with a focus on morality, and strong judgement for the failings of it, virtue is not something I intended to gravitate towards.

But maybe virtue and deliberate creation of life are one in the same. This virtue is not about how to be good. It is not a performance to be accepted in to heaven. It isnt to make you more Godly in the traditional sense. It is to remove the barriers to love and that in way may allow you to be in heaven in the now, it may allow you to be God more than you are your limits to God . And God is the creator in all of us.

So as we follow virtue in its true sense we become the power to create life. We remove our energy from separation and bring it back to love, we become more our truth, and from truth energy is liberated to create from joy. We no longer have to play out the unconscious creations of our judgement and pain, we can live in the realm of the heart, we can play in our wildest dreams.

So think about the virtues that matter to you. The ones they mentioned in school and see how they may actually liberate you and those around you, how they may actually be your path to abundance and love. Virtue could in fact be your manifesting tool you didnt know you needed. Of course still focus on the things you want to create but from a compassionate heart, you will feel the fullness of those desires.

I invite you all to really think about what virtue really means and what it might not mean. Because many of us have been programmed in to believing they mean something and in fact it may be a quite different meaning.

Compassion for example, is often mistaken for pity, or even self sacrifice and martyrdom of the compassionate. I do not believe it is that. It is with passion, holding love on that which you gaze, accepting and allowing another’s pain to exist without losing your own center of love. It is actions that see the light in another while witnessing the pain, it does not diminish the soul behind the pain by catering to its’ suffering as the only truth, it does allow for it to be in that persons life, however. It says I see you. Compassion need not give up anything to give this away. In fact it amplifies the love with in and with out.

Let me know what virtues you think matter and how we can understand them deeper. And if this resonated send it to someone who you think would enjoy reading it.

Spread the love,

Avery